It’s that time of year. We’ve planned holiday celebrations, flipped our calendars one last time, and can’t help but look back on the past 365 days of our lives. How have things changed? In what ways are they still the same?
Let’s get one thing straight: you don’t have to become a new version of yourself the second the ball drops. Still, as the year winds down, it naturally becomes an excellent time for self-reflection.
Grab a pen and some privacy, and get started with these prompts for each zodiac sign.
Aries: How Do You Self-Soothe?
Anger, frustration, irritation and other “big” feelings are universal. There’s nothing wrong with experiencing them—we all do! Fiery Aries are no strangers to these emotions, but how do you handle them?
You may hate to hear it, but the way you direct your feelings matters—a lot. So consider this: how do you cope with overwhelming emotions? Do you take them out on other people, or do you know when you need to decompress? How can you ground yourself in healthy ways?
Taurus: Does Self-Reliance Help or Harm You?
A healthy dose of skepticism and independence never hurt anyone. All Taureans know this, but are you able to balance gut instincts with others’ opinions?
You’re already used to sticking to your guns, and that self-trust is super important. Still, are there times when you may benefit from (dare we say it?) asking for help? Is it possible that others may bring great ideas to the table? Is there a way to balance your truths with other peoples’ advice too?
Gemini: Can You Trust Yourself?
When your zodiac sign is symbolized by duality, certainty can be a challenge. Geminis’ back-and-forth nature can quickly lead to inconsistency and indecisiveness. This isn’t an inherent flaw! It’s because the world isn’t black and white to you.
Your airy flexibility is invaluable, and you’re never stuck in your ways. However, this can come at a cost. Do you really trust your gut, or are you too easily swayed by others’ opinions? How can you stay true to yourself even when challenged? Reflect on what you genuinely believe in and why you do. Are these your own values or someone else’s?
Cancer: Where Do You End and Others Begin?
Let’s dive right into this hard-hitting question, Cancer. It’s a big question—we know. Ever the empaths, many Cancers struggle with over-extending and setting boundaries. It’s easy for you to conflate other peoples’ experiences with your own.
Empathy is a superpower; let’s be clear about that, but if you notice you lose yourself in others, that can be a significant issue. Do you know how to connect with others without taking on their emotions? How can you cultivate your autonomy?
Leo: Who Are You in Solitude?
This may be a nightmare for you, Leo, but picture this: there’s no audience, no adoration, no one to impress. It’s just you. Who are you now? Who are you when no one’s watching? How do you interact with the world if we remove all social factors? Are your priorities different? Do your values change? Now, how can you integrate this solitary version of yourself into the social version?
Virgo: Whose Plan Are You Really Following?
Virgo: we know that you’re notorious for your planning skills, and we totally admire that. You’re a stickler for checkboxes and milestones and will meet them at all costs. The question is: who determined this life course? Are these the goals you hope to reach, or do outside factors influence them? Forget where the plan may lead you and focus on whether it’s making you happy now. If not, what changes can you make?
Libra: How Are You Caring for Yourself?
As eternal peacemakers, Libras direct so much energy towards preserving balance. While we love you for this, we can’t ignore that you have your own needs—and believe it or not, these extend beyond caring for others.
Let’s push those people-pleasing tendencies to the side for a moment. Instead, focus on you. How are you doing, really? What was the last nice thing you did for yourself? Are you caring for yourself the way you care for others?
Scorpio: Do They Deserve Your Loyalty?
Scorpios may be known for their private personal lives and expert sleuthing skills, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t incredible friends. You’ll stick by your loved ones through thick and thin, but is everyone who has your unconditional support worthy?
Take an inventory of who holds your loyalty. Do they still reciprocate your love? Does your support go both ways, or are you left in the dark? Remember, relationships don’t have to be lifelong if they’re no longer serving you.
Sagittarius: Is Honesty Always the Best Policy?
Honesty is a virtue, but contrary to what we were taught growing up, it may not always be necessary. As a Sag, you’re never afraid to speak your mind. While this is honorable in many ways, not everyone is equipped to hear it, especially if they didn’t ask.
Which situations call for honesty, and which ones don’t? Are there ways you can take a gentler approach or help others come to their own realizations?
Capricorn: What’s Actually in Your Control?
The unknown is incredibly uncomfortable for most people, especially for calculated Capricorns. Your cautious nature makes it difficult for you to go with the flow, so accepting that some things are unpredictable can be a hurdle.
Which aspects of your life do you have a say in? What parts are out of your hands? Can you make peace with the uncertainty?
Aquarius: How Do You Show You Care?
People need to know they’re cared for. Period. While Aquarians may think they do a fine job of expressing sentimentality, others may not always see it that way. Think about the love languages, and remember that everyone understands acts of love in unique ways. So, how do you show your love? Do you think your loved ones know you care as much as you do? Are there ways to reassure them of your appreciation in a way they’ll better understand?
Pisces: Which Perceptions Are No Longer Serving You?
High, intense emotions are a central trait of being a Pisces. (No, this doesn’t mean you’re always crying. Emotionality can mean a lot of things.) With that said, you likely hold onto grudges pretty easily, but sometimes, your emotional reaction clouds your judgment, keeping you hung up on moments that aren’t worth your energy.
The question is: what are you holding onto that is no longer serving you? Do your grudges still make sense, or are they harming your wellbeing and relationships? Is there anything you can do to resolve these issues and move forward?
Sitting with self-reflective questions may be uncomfortable and intimidating — that’s completely normal. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t engage with them. Taking this time to consider how you show up for yourself is an incredible act of self-love. You can do it!